Over the years, I’ve participated in mastermind groups and signed up to be an accountability buddy. Over 90% of them have dissolved after a few weeks. People get busy or they forget or they just stop participating. And don’t get me wrong. I was just as guilty for not following through.
Why is it so difficult to be accountable?
If I haven’t done what I said I was going to do, I felt like telling my accountability partner would disappoint them. I also felt like I was going to the principal’s office.
I hate disappointing people.
Do you feel the same way? Do you feel like you disappointed yourself if you don’t achieve your goals?
I hated even worse being sent to the principal’s office. Yes, I actually have been sent there in my lifetime. For fighting. It was 1st grade. And maybe 2nd. But the past is the past.
Don’t Drive Using the Rear View Mirror
So you didn’t do as well as you wanted. That’s okay. We all have our off days.
But the truth is if you keep having off day after off day, there’s a problem. And that’s where the accountability buddy can help you out. Think of them as the pause button. If you keep bringing up the same excuse, take some time to brainstorm why you’re not moving forward.
Pushing Through Procrastinating
As I mentioned in a prior post, procrastinating is usually caused by not feeling strongly enough with the why you want it. To push through:
- Break down the task into a smaller next step
- Schedule 20 minutes
- Do that next step
That will unstick you quickly. Once you get momentum, you’ll want to do more next actions because you’ll be more connected with your goal.
Then you’ll be more excited to meet wiht your accountability buddy.
What is Accountability
The problem, as I said, is that we think of accountability as being called to the principal’s office. And that’s not what it is at all. Accountability is an internal thing. It’s like you can’t hold someone else accountable or discipline someone else. You must motivate yourself to be disciplined and accountable.
I’d highly recommend The 12 Week Year.
I use the audio version to get connected with the principles and then the Kindle version to review the important tasks. They define accountability as grading yourself. Your accountability partner is only there to help you become the best person that you can be.
Change Your Mindset
So choose to use your accountability partner as a true partner. They are someone who wants to see you succeed. If you’re not moving forward, you need to meet with them even more and help brainstorm ideas to push forward.
Another thing I use is the T Harv Eker’s Life Makeover Coaching. I’ve used their group and individual coaching and it has helped me uncover a lot of blocks. At the end of the group coaching, they have you commit to being there the next week. There’s a lot of power in promising yourself that you’re going to do something.
And what I love the most is how many people have the same problems that I do. It’s a warm feeling of being in this all together. The other members of my group are from all over the world. And the guy who runs it lives in Spain.
We’re all just trying to get somewhere better in our lives. Having a life coach allows us to get focused on nine main areas in our lives. I’m feeling so much more balanced and effective. If you’re interested, click here to check out the Life Makeover Coaching program too.